The Godly Chic Diaries

Sigmund Freud once said “I cannot think of any need in childhood as strong as the need for a father’s protection,” so if that’s the case, I consider myself pretty damn lucky to have a father who has gone above and beyond his role.

My Dad is phenomenal and extremely wise. What I find most admirable about him is his unrivaled ability to remain positive even when confronted with daily challenges. So I asked him: “Dad, how do you do it?”, “Whats your secret?”,”You never seem to stress out!” His answer was simple: “I don’t use that word, I don’t speak that feeling into existence.” I stared at him blankly. He continued: “When people ask how I am, I always answer with ‘wonderful’ even if my day is less than perfect because I am opened to the possibility that the day will improve and that possibility is enough.” Now that’s…

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My Breakdown Story

Today, I had a mini-breakdown, I began to doubt that God truly loves me. In my head, if He loves me, He should answer my prayers, He should hear me out. I have a list of about 5 things right now that I’ve been praying to God for since March and I’m really feeling the pressure from outside for those needs to be met, but I’ve not seen any positive response yet.

I’ve cried, prayed, spoken the word and believed and nothing really changed. Sometimes (ooops, many times) I tell God that I’m angry at Him and that I will never pray to Him again because He doesn’t hear me.

During the time I was crying today because of what I wanted God to do that had not been done, I began to remember all the other things that I had prayed for that are still pending and I got angrier at God. At a point, I began to tell God that it was hard but I still wanted His love to cover me. So I was trying to wipe my tears and praying to God to help me.

It was a crazy moment for me and for a second, I felt I couldn’t trust God anymore, and as much as I don’t understand, somehow the thing worked. I’ve been praying for Him to root me in His love and I guess I’m in the process. All thanks to God!

 Be careful—watch out for attacks from Satan, your great enemy. He prowls around like a hungry, roaring lion, looking for some victim to tear apart. Stand firm when he attacks. Trust the Lord; and remember that other Christians all around the world are going through these sufferings too. 1 Peter 5:8-9 (TLB)

In The Valley of Pain (pt3)

God loves us, we’ve heard this and it’s beginning to sound like a broken gramophone record, if He really loves us, why would He let us go through the pain we feel sometimes. We cry out to Him to help us sort what we are going through out and it seems like an endless cycle because we still end up feeling horrible.

The pain might be break-up, friends not giving you the attention you deserve or general lack in your life. Does God allow us go through the pain so that we would be able to help those who go through them later on?

God really does love us and He sees what we go through, He allows us to cry and feel the pain so strongly and this has been the point of argument for most atheists – How can a God who claims to love us allow us go through pain? The truth is that I don’t know but one thing I know is that I have been through pain a lot of times in my life and so many times it has felt like God was not there, I called Him names and told Him I wasn’t going to trust Him ever again because I felt He just did not hear me. I used all the words in my vocabulary to try to get Him to say something but He was still quiet.

The total message here is that He loves us even in the pain, God does not let us go through the pain because He does not love us, His silence whispers His love. God is calling as many of us today that have reached the end of the plank and are ready to give up on trusting Him. He never fails, He has never failed and He certainly would not. Let Him work on your heart because HE IS MORE CONCERNED WITH THE STATE OF YOUR HEART THAN YOUR SITUATION. He will solve your situation, but let Him deal with your heart first.

Then, when that happens, we are able to hold our heads high no matter what happens and know that all is well, for we know how dearly God loves us, and we feel this warm love everywhere within us because God has given us the Holy Spirit to fill our hearts with his love. Rom 5:5 (The Living Bible)

In The Valley of Pain (Pt. 2)

What really happens when we pray? We say “God I want love, peace, money, healing, a job or friends, clarity”, but none of these prayers seem to get answered. Before my 21st birthday, I had a few things that I wanted God to do for me, I even asked God for a birthday gift and I received none (none that I can see at least). I’m thankful for the gift of life, that’s awesome and the gift of protection and provision. Back to my birthday story, I didn’t get to do all I planned because I was broke and not too happy.

What really happens to our prayers when the God that tells us to pray said that we should ask anything in Jesus name and we have it? People want the real stuff, the unadulterated stuff that works on a grumpy Monday, laid back Tuesday, crazy Wednesday, grey Thursday and a Terrific Friday. We want the foolproof stuff that gives guarantee for tomorrow.

How do we find these answers? are they in prayers, tears, praise or waiting? What’s the good stuff that keeps us healthy all the way? I think it’s personal, no one can tell you what it really is, for you, it might be just to have visible love, for some other, it’s solution to a lifelong problem and for others it’s to be rich and successful.

The question is (because we all are looking for answers, there has to be a question) what do you really need? What makes you so emotional, incomplete or helpless that if you found solution to today, every other part of your life will take significant adjustment?

When you find that thing, take time out to reflect, love and get that part of you healed up and defined because it sums up your life’s purpose most times. God’s love is real, healthy stuff, it’s not the junk that the world gives.

I will love to hear from you, share your stories with me by sending a mail to me through my contact me page or through my address.


I’ve had a good look at what God has given us to do—busywork, mostly. True, God made everything beautiful in itself and in its time—but he’s left us in the dark, so we can never know what God is up to, whether he’s coming or going. I’ve decided that there’s nothing better to do than go ahead and have a good time and get the most we can out of life. That’s it—eat, drink, and make the most of your job. It’s God’s gift. – Eccl 3: 9-13


In The Valley Of Pain

There are a thousand reasons to give up, especially when nothing is changing after you have been praying  and being a little bit steadfast in the word. Where is God when it all happens? is He hiding somewhere or is it that He just does not want to listen to us?

I’ve been through a lot of negativity most seasons of my life and I’ve caught myself wondering where God really is. I’ve been through loneliness, frustration, being picked on, criticized and gossiped about, but God’s word said that I am the light of the world, that I am royalty, that I am beautiful and loved. So why do I get slapped by negativity every passing day? is it that the word of God doesn’t apply to me or what exactly is it?

Is God really there when I’m in the valley of pain, or am I actually alone? these are real questions being asked by people going through stuff. Some have given up and don’t want to remember that they have a God because they have not seen Him come through every time they called. Could it be possible that He loves us in spite of His quietness.

God has not failed. He will not fail, he is compassionate and good. He is kind and loving and he does not forget those He loves. What to do in the pain is to keep seeking Him, keep crying when the tears come and keep hiding in his arms. Sometimes God calls us to a sober life, to live each day in pain so that we can be refined through the fire and come out as Gold.

God will comfort you when your pain is much, you don’t know the answers and that’s okay, remember, it’s okay to feel lonely, hurt, jealous, sad and hopeless. When we go as we are and acknowledge who we are before God, his healing work begins in those places.

If you’re feeling some kinda way now and you don’t know where else to turn to, turn to God and receive love from Him. Send me a message through my contact me page or and I will be sure to respond and pray for you. We need more love in this world that has been blinded by the lies of the enemy.


Praise be to the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, the Father of compassion and the God of all comfort,  who comforts us in all our troubles, so that we can comfort those in any trouble with the comfort we ourselves receive from God.

My Silly Relationship Story: Orientation Camp Escapades

Hey guysss! How’s this weather treating Y’all? For me, I’ve been super hesitant to go to work. It’s been one hell of a week since last Tuesday, but God came through.

Today’s story is one that you can take a quick guess about from the caption, but before I start with this story, I’ll like to put a disclaimer here. These stories are totally past experiences that the writers have learnt from and they are solely posted for comedy and to help a sister that needs to know.

Story time

We met at NYSC (National Youth Service Corps) orientation camp, I honestly didn’t think anything would come up between us because he was the kind of guy that had so many girls flirting with him simply because he was cute! He was in my platoon so we got talking when we started practising for the volleyball competition. He was our coach and he was really nice to everyone. He knew just how to get the best out of you while playing. He would give compliments everyday and stare at me all through parade. I thought I was dreaming, this was the guy every girl was drooling over and he was all on my matter.

Trust me, I chose to ignore him because it was too good to be true, although I had a crush on him. One evening, during parade, I sat at the back because I had a problem with my breathing, he came and began to talk to me. We spoke for so long that I forgot to have dinner. We continued talking everyday after that and he would take me for lunch, dinner, you know that formal respectful kinda somethin.

Mr. smoothtalker was perfect and I had no reason to doubt him because he didn’t touch me or request for anything sexual. After a while, I began to hear stuff about him that he was dating bout five other girls on camp. I didn’t believe because I knew we spent all of our time together, so I waved it off. My friends warned me but I sincerely felt it was ‘bad belle’ talk. I trusted him so much so I told him what people were saying, he just smiled and said “don’t mind them”.

Some days later, I made a snap of the two of us (at this time, we were already an item, we had even shared a few kisses), one of my friends immediately messaged me and asked if that was (name withheld, let’s give him Mr. smoothtalker) smoothtalker. Shocked, I responded in the affirmative and asked her how she knew him. She called my phone immediately and downloaded the full gist for me. His girlfriend’s name, how the two were an item on instagram, she even gave me his IG name and I checked his page. So apparently, this guy had a girlfriend at home that he adored and he wanted to waste my time. SMH, I didn’t say anything to him, I just avoided him for the remaining time we had to stay in camp.

So, that’s my short story and I hope you enjoyed it? Thanks loveproject for the platform.

Till next post!

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My Silly Relationship Story: Was I The DUFF?

This guy met me, or I met him, whatever! He SEEMED cool and since I’m one of those girls that doesn’t have guys talk to her that much, it was great that he asked to get my number. I liked him quite alright, not that I really liked anything about him but I was happy that finally a guy walked up to me. It’s not that I’m not beautiful or hot, I just don’t know why guys don’t come to me. Someone once said I have a spiritual husband and that I should consider going for deliverance prayers.

To be candid, I have never taken this as a problem, considering the fact that I’m still pretty young.  We met at an event, with my friend, and we got talking normally, he asked for my number and we talked even more. My friend even teased me about him and told me he liked me. But, our conversations never passed the hello….hi, what’s up? stage. My friend was quite friendly with him(I say quite because she was just being courteous not that she liked him). He asked for her number and she politely declined.

Since the conversation did not go too well, I stopped responding to his messages and moved on. Then we ran into each other a few months later at the mall. He was there with a few girls but he saw me and decided to leave them to come and talk to me, he actually said bye to them and took the bus with me home. That really felt good, we talked about everything, my dreams, his dreams, his love for God (this got me, a fine man that loves God!!! level 10,000 awesome). He texted me before I got home asking how I was doing and everything.

We talked for a while and he asked for us to see again. We met again and we got talking. Somehow, the conversation drifted to my friend and he asked all sorts of questions about her, ranging from her age, school, work, likes, relationship status. Then he asked for her contact. I answered his questions and gave him her number because I honestly felt he had an interest in me and wanted to have a spot in my friend’s life. We held hands and hugged that night after our outing and he even called me to check if I was home. In my head, I felt like I had found the one so effortlessly.

Two days later and I didn’t hear from him, I called him to find out how he was and he sounded fine. He didn’t seem to want to go further with conversations and I left him, again! Fast forward to three months, my friend gets back into town and starts gisting me about one guy she met, that said he got her number from me and knows me well.  She told me about how he was so in love with her, got her gifts and how they had video calls regularly and how they were going to meet finally this weekend. You can guess, she invited me. I already knew it was him, so I came up with an excuse not to go.

So, that’s my silly relationship experience. Was I a fool? I only hate the fact that this guy didn’t tell me straight up that he liked my friend and not me. He could have spared me the emotional stress of liking him, unliking him and liking him back, that’s why I still send him wierd love texts with a bulk sms service. (Totally kidding!)

All I would like to say is that guys should send the right signals everytime. It saves a lot of stress. I wish my friend a happy relationship and I wish that guy a happy life too.

Till next post!

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