Hello favourite readers! Here is this listicle to ladies who like me have been in relationships or are in one but have no clue. I’m totally here for you, because I know exactly what it means to be with someone you love so dearly and yet get hurt.
I originally named this post ” 5 Surprising facts you didn’t know abut the man you love”.Two things, I don’t know what my obsession with 5 is, and I don’t want to bore you with 5 facts! Oh Lol.
In school then, we would scribble mathematical formulas in our palms or cram them just so we didn’t forget because in maths, it doesn’t matter how intelligent or good you are if you don’t know the formula to apply. This also applies to relationships, you need to know what works and what doesn’t work, yeah I know some people would say they don’t do rules, they like to be themselves, but a great relationship is the result of two dedicated individuals working hard at making it work. Here below are some interesting facts you can easily remember about the man in your life. If your relationship is awkward already, it’s not late to get in line with these tips.
- He wants your respect
A Survey ran on 400 men by Shaunti Feldhahn got me astonished and gave me a clearer understanding of the difference between both sexes. The research asked men to pick between two options: “to be alone and unloved in the world” or “to feel inadequate and disrespected by everyone”. 73.8% of men said they’ll rather be alone and unloved in the world than take disrespect.
Another instance where the male need for respect hit me was in the movie “Fireproof” Caleb Holt (Kirk Cameron), in a conversation with his father made this statement; “seems like I am a hero to everyone in the world except my wife”. Men want respect, Women want love. Respect is not saying tremble at his feet and call him “my lord”, it’s in little things like appreciating him, asking for his help and publicly respecting him.
- When he pulls back, it’s not you!!
From our understanding about ourselves, it is safe to say that women reward people with words and time, so if I’m talking to you, I like you and if I don’t, aint no way I’m talking to you, however, guys don’t operate this way, their withdrawal is born from a different source. Dr. John Gray, in his Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus gives insight on this that is relatable:
“At such times, he becomes increasingly distant, forgetful, unresponsive, and preoccupied in his relationships and he is incapable of giving a woman the attention and feeling that she normally receives and certainly deserves. His mind is preoccupied, and he is powerless to release it. If, however, he can find a solution, instantly he will feel much better and come out of his cave; suddenly he is available for being in a relationship again.”
Dr. John advises us to not try to have intimate conversations with him when he is in his ‘cave’ but to talk about problems with friends or have fun and go shopping. Who knows, he might snap out of it faster.
Watch out for the last shocker next week.